COUPLES RELATIONSHIP THERAPY
I specialise in supporting Couples, creating the conditions in which each feels safe enough to keep the door open to each other.... through this doorway, communication is transformed it becomes possible to repair, reconnect or revive relationships
Sometimes we notice that the door between us feels shut, or stuck, and that we have lost connection - connection isn't the absence of disagreement; it's the ability to remain emotionally reachable, even when you disagree.
Reaching out for support can feel like the first uncertain step on unfamiliar ground. My role is to help create enough understanding and emotional safety for each next step to become a little clearer.
I invite you to contact me as you take a first step to exploring the possibility of repair, renewal or reconnection through Couples Therapy - I offer a variety of options for meeting, and before we begin a journey of couples therapy I take time to understand both your relationship and each of you as individuals. This usually includes a shared assessment session, individual sessions with each partner, and a collaborative planning session so that our work together is tailored to your unique relationship, rather than following a one-size-fits-all approach.
Sessions are held in a comfortable setting and available in Tunbridge Wells and Sevenoaks
Now available in full day sessions!
THE RELATIONSHIP RENEWAL PROGRAMME
Bespoke Couples Day
Reset and Reconnect:
A half-day or full-day bespoke session designed entirely around your relationship, helping you move further in one day than months of weekly sessions often allow!
Bookings are now open for September!!
Due to popular demand, extra dates for late Summer 2026 will be added shortly -
- Do you need to repair or revive your relationship?
- Are you struggling with your feelings within your marriage or partnership?
- wouod you like to feel more confident to speak up, or be heard?
- Are you finding it hard to imagine a bright future as a couple?
- Is being, or becoming parents causing a strain on your relationship?
Don’t waste any more time worrying - Book Now!!
Limited availability for a one-off personalised and bespoke intensive for Couples, held over half or full day - and very different from any other marriage guidance (or pre-wedding meetings), or courses!
This is a unique opportunity for you both to spend some time together in 'The Relationship Studio' - a workshop- style session where you can learn and experiment with developing new patterns of relating to one another - especially helpful if your relationship is suffering from communication problems because this is a 'no failure zone'. Held in a comfortable setting in either Tunbridge Wells and Sevenoaks, might this be the perfect opportunity to invest in your relationship by attending my custom designed session –unique to you!
Invest in Your Relationship!
We start out in love and with the best of intentions, but few of us receive any good relationship education. Our society focuses more on getting to a commitment, than on how to keep that commitment alive day after day, and year after year.
Do you ever feel that your partner speaks a different language to you?!
The quality of our childhood experiences can impact on our individual styles of communication, and affect the dynamics of our relationships.
- Together, in your one-off bespoke session, we will explore differences between you and your Partner which may be rooted in old patterns unknowingly brought into the relationship from your childhood -this deeper understanding will draw you closer as you decide together, how you and your partner will incorporate the positive characteristics from your families of origin - and how to leave behind the negative characteristics…. imagine that!
Healthy relationships are well balanced
Healthy ling term relationships mean developing the right amount of intimacy and togetherness as a couple and the right amount of separateness as individuals. Both are important and yet you may have very different, perhaps unspoken views to each other. What does intimacy mean for you both? Intimacy is not just about sex! Intimacy can only truly flourish in a relationship where each partner is able to self-define as an individual, and able to feel comfortable with expressing their own feelings, beliefs, desires and interests – if we can learn how to more authentically express ourself, it becomes easier then for each partner to be able to hear the other’s opinions or understand their actions or behaviours, without experiencing negative reactions.
Know your desires and feelings- and speak up for them clearly
We often expect our partner to read our mind – this expectation alongside self-editing or second guessing are all common mistakes that leads to misery! It's a painful myth that our partner should automatically know what we want and need. Together we’ll look at your own unique style of communicating and discover a more satisfying way to make sure you are each heard- and also, that you are listening, not just hearing.
Understanding that love is not an absolute
Love can mean so many different things to each of us -it is a feeling that ebbs and flows and can depend on how you treat each other, and how that feels. Love isn’t a limited commodity that you are either in or out of, so if this is of importance to you, we will explore together new ways to interact within your personalised session. Couples often discover a new or stronger connection following this session, where good feelings come flowing back, and can even become stronger than before.
What can you expect from me as a Couples Therapeutic Coach?
(Please note; this course is not designed for couples in crisis, but is designed for those who each want to reconnect, improve or revive their relationship, or to underpin a relationship or marriage with new strength and understanding).
• I’m here to help you strengthen or develop your relationship – we’ll work together to improve specifically what matters to you.
• This is not a standardised ‘off the shelf’ course. Drawn from the information you provide to me, I design each session to help you to really understand the specific underlying causes of any relationship distress or concerns you may be feeling – together or individually.
• I will be inviting you to discuss key areas of your relationship which you both feel are important. I am there to guide you and to coach, so that we’ll be able to safely discuss each of your views -and maybe some that you may not have considered before. I will support you through any difficult discussions or subjects, respectfully helping to recognise and improve your patterns of communication, where helpful.
• Differences are actually part and parcel of any healthy relationship and with me, you will learn new skills to navigate, manage and celebrate your unique differences, to bring you closer together – and to perhaps become curious about the impact of sameness!
• We will discuss your own individual goals and goals you have together, and explore ways to achieve a healthy balance.
What sets The Relationship Renewal experience apart from other relationship courses or marriage/commitment preparation programmes?:
•This non-judgmental course is available to any couple in a primary relationship regardless of religion, age, culture, race or sexual
orientation
• The professional material and handouts are created and provided courtesy of the Founder & Director of the renowned Mayo Couples Counselling Service, Cate Heffernan and Founder of The Couples Institute, Ellyn Bader.
• Each session is held confidentially for just the two of you, and is unbiased. It is customised by me personally -uniquely designed just for you.
• A pre-assessment questionnaire allows you time to think about and reflect beforehand on different aspects of your unique relationship, and what you most need from this opportunity. Receiving this before your session allows me insight into where support and guidance is most needed, with plenty of time to desisgn a bespoke session targetting your specific goals.
• This is a one-off session (half day or full day) – however, as a qualified, registered and experiencedcouple’s therapist, you have a safety net and you can always come back to me or continue with couples counselling sessions afterwards -or if you hit a rough patch, or for periodic relationship check-ups or sessions, whenever you need.
• You keep and can return to the questionnaires as a discussion document for many years to come.
Bookings for September 2026 are now open!!
Further late summer 2026 dates will shortly be released - for details contact Sue 07976 532888, email: sueweller2018@gmail.com
Couples Bespoke Renewal Day - Summer 2026: Discount extended - Register your interest now to qualify for Early Bird prices with £100 discount!
I am here for you, and together we will work through what is troubling you. Reach out to me on 07976 532888 or sueweller2018@gmail.com
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